Quotes
Consciousness can transcend both
nature and nurture (Bruce Lipton).
ROMANTIC LOVE QUOTES

The Paradox of Relationship: “I alone must become myself; I cannot become
myself alone.”

   First Stage of Love:           Love without Knowledge
Second Stage of Love:           Knowledge without Love
Third Stage of Love:           Love with Knowledge
(Terrence Real)

“If you believe in love at first sight, then you’re always looking.” Closer

his human relationship or cheating himself. At first he feels that half the his
human relationship or cheating himself. At first he feels that half the thrills,
excitement, fun and intensity is taken out of human relationship. With time he
learns that his soul-life never really belonged there and that his human
relationship is actually thriving better without it; but for a time, it feels dismal.”
Robert Johnson
dismal.” Robert Johnson


“There are two questions we have to ask ourselves. The first is ‘Where am I
going?’ And the second is ‘Who will go with me?’  If you ever get these
questions in the wrong order, you are in trouble.” Howard Thurman

To ask (consciously or unconsciously) someone to complete us or make us
happy is “to make [that person] into something that she [he] cannot possibly
be. This is asking something outer to fill an inner need.” Robert Johnson

“When I get lonely these days, I think: So be lonely, Liz. Learn your way
around loneliness. Make a map of it. Sit with it…But never again use another
person’s body or emotions as a scratching post for your own unfulfilled
yearnings.” From Eat Pray Love, Liz Gilbert

“The romantic love story is a paradoxical fusion of two extraordinarily potent
messages. The first is that love, deep connection, is the most important,
indeed the only truly important matter in the world. And the second is that
true love cannot exist in this world.” Terrence Real

“Relationship is there to enhance inner experience, not to provide it.” Marla
Estes

Psychotherapist Robert Stein says that by neglecting our inner lives, “we
literally have enormous difficulties distinguishing inside from outside.” In
this situation, “we tend to burden our [partners] with the demand to take care
of our own neglected soul.” We expect our partners to do the work that we
are not willing or able to do.
     
“Marriage is not a love affair. A love affair is a totally different thing. A
marriage is a commitment to that which you are. That person is literally your
other half. And you and the other are one. A love affair isn’t that. That is a
relationship of pleasure, and when it gets to be unpleasurable, it’s off. But a
marriage is a life commitment, and a life commitment means the prime
concern of your life. If marriage is not the prime concern, you are not
married.” Joseph Campbell

“That a marriage ends is less than ideal; but all things end under heaven,
and if temporality is held to be invalidating, then nothing real succeeds.”
John Updike

“One should believe in marriage as in the immortality of the soul” Honore de
Balzac

“The beginning of love is a horror of emptiness.” Robert Bly

“Love is a friendship set to music.” J. Campbell

“Marriage is not a simple love affair, it's an ordeal, and the ordeal is the
sacrifice of ego to a relationship in which two have become one” J. Campbell

"To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone
deeply gives you courage." Lao Tsu

"Love is the child of illusion and the parent of disillusion." Miguel de
Unamuno

"Love is a kind of anxious fear." Ovid

"In love, there is always one who kisses and one who offers the cheek."
French proverb

“When you live with another person for 50 years, all of your memories are
invested in that person, like a bank account of shared memories. It’s not that
you refer to them constantly. In fact, for people who do not live in the past, you
almost never say, “Do you remember that night we...?” But you don’t have to.
That is the best of all. You know that the other person does remember. Thus,
the past is part of the present as long as the other person lives. It is better
than any scrapbook, because you are both living scrapbooks.” Federico
Fellini

“The only thing we never get enough of is love; and the only thing we never
give enough of is love.” Henry Miller

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect
love.” Tom Robbins

“When we're incomplete, we're always searching for somebody to complete
us. When, after a few years or a few months of a relationship, we find that
we're still unfulfilled, we blame our partners and take up with somebody
more promising. This can go on and on--series polygamy--until we admit
that while a partner can add sweet dimensions to our lives, we, each of us,
are responsible for our own fulfillment. Nobody else can provide it for us,
and to believe otherwise is to delude ourselves dangerously and to program
for eventual failure every relationship we enter.” Tom Robbins

“Our Similarities bring us to a common ground; Our Differences allow us to
be fascinated by each other” Tom Robbins

“The highest function of love is that it makes the loved one a unique and
irreplaceable being.” Tom Robbins

“When two people meet and fall in love, there's a sudden rush of magic.
Magic is just naturally present then. We tend to feed on that gratuitous magic
without striving to make any more. One day we wake up and find that the
magic is gone. We hustle to get it back, but by then it's usually too late, we've
used it up. What we have to do is work like hell at making additional magic
right from the start. It's hard work, but if we can remember to do it, we greatly
improve our chances of making love stay.” Tom Robbins

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.
And when it subsides you have to make a decision.
You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is
inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is.
Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of
eternal passion.
That is just being ‘in love,’ which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left
over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a
fortunate accident. Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each
other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their
branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” (Captain Corelli’s
Mandolin, Louis de Bernieres

Two Ways of Running
A certain man had a jealous wife and a very appealing maidservant.
The wife was careful not to leave them alone, ever.
For six years they were never left in a room together.
But then one day at the public bath the wife remembered she's left
her silver basin at home.
"Please go get the basin," she told her maid. The girl jumped to the task
knowing she would finally get to be alone with the master.
She ran joyfully. She flew. Desire took them both so quickly
they didn't latch the door.. With great speed they joined.
When bodies blend in copulation, spirits also merge.
Meanwhile, the wife back at the bathhouse is washing her hair.
"What have I done! I've set cotton wool on fire! I've put the ram in with the
ewe!"
She washed the clay soap off and ran, dixing her chador about her as she
went.
The maid ran for love.
The wife ran out of jealousy and fear.
There is a great difference.
- Rumi (excerpted)